Amy Chua: Tale Of A Tiger Mother (1/12/12)

21 thoughts on “Amy Chua: Tale Of A Tiger Mother (1/12/12)

  1. She helps her children. I’m 14 and I wish I she was my mother. My parents never believe in me.

  2. At 33:40 this is pretty much how my mother raised me and my brother, she knew us very well and could tell when we were trying our best or not. She took the time to look over our homework with us and sometimes watched us study/do homework. She talked with our teachers and on test days would encourage us and expect the best. I owe my mother a great deal for my solid study habits and time management skills. Don’t just work hard but smart as well was something she would always say. :3

  3. I kind of envy her daughters, I wish my mom was more like that.
    My parents are so care free.

  4. lulu is bad maybe she needs to be cut loose lol atleast the mom will still have one daughter.but seriously lulu needs to get her act right

  5. Yeah Right!! carefully and humorously blame it all on the child and turn her into a the “monster”!! how narcissistic!!! That says alot about this woman!!

  6. As someone raised very similarly except perhaps being the rebellious older rather than younger daughter I feel like the mixed race parenting is THE BEST. Even though I fought and eventually ended up dropping one of my activities, mandarin, until I took it back up to fulfill my highschool requirement, I also hated piano for a while and the musical skills I learned from that lead to amazing life experience as a choral singer. Plus I was pushed ahead in subjects like math which is making my senior year of highschool and going into college far more relaxed than my peers. I also can definitely verify that angry asian mom is WAY less scary than my dad if he gets mad.

  7. update since i saw this video two years ago. ive known a taiwanese guy raised in the us product of this tiger mom approach for about two years. i’d say he is a good kid as a whole. quite smart ( masters in an engineering branch) , good job. however, very very very bad social skills. rarely says good morning, good bye, or any expected normal greeting. he rarely starts a conversation nor has much or rather any input once a conversation starts in a group of people where he is. only answers or says something if asked directly. it could be just shyness. also, no gf so far and hes already 29 or 28. he has great physical/character expectations for his future gf/wife, which is probably the only unrealistic aspect about his way of thinking, but hey, he has a good salary so that can help. i think there is also a low or even lack sense of empathy about him. there have been a few too many situations with other people in which the most they got from him was a visibly automatic “im sorry” when much more was needed. but this is only a case, id have to know more people raised this way to dare saying anything negative about this kind of upbringing.

  8. I’m 40 and I do need a mother like Amy Chua. I wonder how can I transforme my self into someone like her, so I can teach it to my kids

  9. Wow, an articulate, powerful, reflective asian parent. What people forget is when you have lived hand to mouth you never want your kids to got through that and will instill everything into them to give them a foundation for success. Giving your kids their best chance IS through education, through grit, through trying to ensure your kid doesnt settle into a lazy, vapid, self-obsessed, disrespectful, irresponsible asshat who grows up to rely on the state and won’t provide for their own offspring.

  10. Many people don’t agree with her, but don’t hurt to try some of her points/styles. We don’t know if her daughters hate her or not, but they’re so successful in life in such young age.

  11. Honestly, Asians are not smart. Their tradition is to push their children into high levels so they can be SMARTER and have a brighter future.

  12. My mom is a tiger mom. I love her and I know she does everything because she loves and cares for me. But, sometimes i cry myself to bed stressing over an 85% on a Physics test I didn’t know we had. There is this huge cultural gap between her and I (she was raised in China, I in Canada) so there are many things she doesn’t understand. Also, there is a generation gap (she is 54 and I am 15). That physics test I took was one of the hardest things I’ve ever had to do, and i got the second highest score in my class (I guess it was hard for everyone else too), so I thought that had given me an out. When I got home and told my mom my score and that it was second highest in the class (science and maths are NOT my forte), she said “Are you proud?”. I don’t think I’ve ever seen her so angry in my life. She thought I was lazy and had given up on life because I was proud of an 85%. There have been so many moments in my life between my mom and I that I wish people could see, because being a “Tiger Mom” isn’t just being strict, but it mentally shapes the children’s mind. I don’t know a better way to explain this except that people need to give their children a little freedom in order for them to be truly happy. I’m studying for my AP World History test while my friends are at a birthday I was invited to. Studying has literally become embedded into me and I strongly disagree with many people in the comments saying how they respect someone who treats her children as adults.

  13. She did good on teaching her children how to do their best at things that they can control or know, but her children will likely have close to zero problem solving skills.
    Different people have a different view on the word “successful”, even though i might think that they will never succeed in life, it doesnt mean that they dont think they have already succeeded

  14. I am Asian and when I and my siblings brought home straight-A report cards, our mom would always remind us “In a mountain without tigers, even a monkey can be king” so that we don’t get swollen heads.

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